When I first started reading THE ROOM LIT BY ROSES: A Journal of Pregnancy
and Birth by Carole Maso, I felt like it was pretentious and a little too
poetic for me, filled with references to obscure poets and saints and
metaphors about ova and such. But as I got farther into the adventure of her
pregnancy, my face was completely soaked with tears of understanding and
appreciation for the way in which she put the whole wonder of birth into
perspective --- of course, I am seven months pregnant and I cry a lot about
the beauty of my experience anyway, but I guarantee that anyone who has any
respect for the creation of life will have the same reaction to this book.
Written while she was working on other projects, THE ROOM LIT BY ROSES
follows Maso through the all-too-familiar terrain of fears and joys that
accompany even the most easygoing pregnancy. There is an alertness in her
work that is halted only by her overwhelming need to constantly remember that
death is the mirror-image of creation and that one day her baby "will die
because of me." The fact that anything born must die is a given for us
humans, but here it seems like Maso, who is without the requisite bodily
pains that come with most pregnancies, is filling the space where her morning
sickness isn't with endless recriminations toward those who have passed from
her life and overbearing treatises on death. Maybe, again, I resent this
mention of death because I, myself, am so filled with safely harbored musings
about life being so abundant in my realm --- I don't know. But I felt like it
was the only drowning note in what is otherwise a beautifully buoyant book
about life.
The birth of her child and its aftermath is poignant for its dipping into the
surreality of the whole endeavor and reality of this tiny person Maso has
been waiting for, and dreading, for nine months. THE ROOM LIT BY ROSES is one
woman's heartfelt account of one of life's greatest moments and can be shared
by those who have experienced it and those who haven't with the same degree
of excitement and bittersweet wonder.
--- Reviewed by Jana Siciliano